From the article: "Yet we know that boys don’t start out this way. They are not inherently violent. They do not inherently hate women. Boys, like girls and all children, are curious, empathetic, affectionate, funny, adventurous, creative and expressive. And yet, they do not remain that way. “All boys in patriarchal culture, learn early that manhood is synonymous with the domination and control over others, that simply by being male they are in a position of authority that gives them the right to assert their will over others, to use coercion and/or violence to gain and maintain power,” says bell hooks. In her book, We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity, the chapter titled “From, angry boys to angry men” details how black boys, in particular, experience what she terms “initiating trauma” of patriarchal socialisation. This happens systemically and methodically through very clear and limited definitions of masculinities. Boys who do not conform to these narrow definitions are brutally victimised."
From the article: "Love is a difficult, complex, and hard thing to come by. You grow up and your perfect parent is no longer your hero. Your white best friend from grade eight has told you to “relax, apartheid is over”. The black vice-chancellor at your university appears less concerned with black students than anyone before him. Your country is bursting at the seams, and since Madiba, you’ve never seen a president in his seat long enough to believe that love can overcome greed and power. But then you read Maya Angelou. You hear Bill Withers sing Grandma’s Hands for the first time. You watch Thandiswa Mazwai in concert. A man who looks like you and sounds like you is more wonderful than disappointing. You see Regina King win an Oscar, and The Little Mermaid gets a melanin makeover. And you realise that you are kept alive and thriving by the prayers of the generations before. In a bloody, brutal fight against hundreds of years of hate, you discover a little black love goes a long way."